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By Lisa Daily

We’ve all done it at one time or another. We whine to our
friends about the lack of nice available guys, and then,
when given the choice between a nice, sweet (safe) guy
and a bad boy who makes our toes curl, we invariably go
for the toe-curler. The heartbreak-waiting-to-happen.
The bad boy.

Doesn’t make any sense, does it?

I recently received a letter from a sweet guy who wrote,

"I''ve been looking for some insights to what women are
looking for, because from my perspective, they often go
for that which they complain about most!

Got any advice for us men?"

Baby, you hit the nail right on the head.

There’s good news and bad news for all you nice guys out
there. Your day will come. It just may not be today.

Nearly all women go through some period in their lives
when they’re swept up by a bad boy. The Navy Seal with
the amazing bod and the mental prowess of a fruit plate.
The Harley guy with mean beard stubble and an attitude
to match. The Josh Hartnett look-alike who makes us feel
like the center of the universe, and then puts the moves
on our roommate the minute we leave for the ladies room.
We can see these guys coming a mile away, and yet we
fall for it every time.

Why?

Part of us actually like to believe we can be the one girl
to turn this wild man into a pussycat. Part of us just like
that down-to-our-toes thrill, the excitement of something we
KNOW is bad for us. (Like chocolate cheesecake, and Jimmy Choo
shoes.) Part of us are just gluttons for misery.

Most women actually grow out of the bad-boy phase once we hit
our mid-twenties. Our girlfriends start to couple off, and
we start wondering if we used up our nice guy quota in college
when were still torturing men for sport. That’s where you come
in, Mr. Sweet Guy. Because you’re the guy we really want.

Here’s my advice for all the nice guys:

Remember what we were wearing on our first date. Give romantic
gifts on birthdays and anniversaries (and remember
flower-mandatory holidays such as Valentine’s Day.) Get what
we’re all about. Let us know what you’re all about. Kill any
bugs that sneak into the kitchen. Give us your coat when it
gets chilly outside. And remember there’s a fine line between
being a nice guy and being a doormat - don’t take any crap from us.

After all, you don’t want to be a good boy in love with a bad girl.